Monday, May 30, 2011

OMG, I'm growing old!!!

Last weekend, my grandma celebrated her 70th birthday and it was awesome. I mean, even with the presence of so many family members, there was still so much peace around, you know, as it always happens, if it's not food, it's bed space or foot wears or food that will cause the quarrels. Thank God though, we didn't end up shouting at ourselves and leaving angry.

So all my cousins were around, and being the oldest female cousin, I had to look out for everybody. On Saturday night, I tried to gather all the cousins together for a little reunion, and that was when I discovered that I'm growing old, really fast.  I remember when my smallest cousin was born, and now, she's almost six years old. Wow! The older ones are either almost out of university or already in university. How did I grow up so fast? When did I stop being the little child? Chei!!!

Anyway, so it was really nice to see everyone of them again and it made me realize that though I might still be a child to my mother, I'm beginning to have very many younger ones coming behind that I might be responsible for, in one way or the other. (we are like 20 of us altogether, and still counting). Also, as much as we may be miles apart, family always plays an important role in our lives and as much as possible, we should always keep them close. I know some family members do not and will never deserve any form of kindness,but the fact is they will remain family, even with all of their flaws.

Sunday, May 22, 2011

I read blogs, so what?

Hello dear bloggers, hope you had a nice weekend.

Yesterday, a friend asked me exactly what I'm doing reading people's blogs and making comments and why I always seem to visit the same sites every time I'm online. Apparently, she had been watching me read people's blogs and visit a couple of reader's/writer's blogs.

Well, the answer was very simple:"Inspiration". I'm always very grateful when I read certain things and I'm like "Wow, that's amazing" or I read something and it just answers some of the questions I have at that moment. That feeling is amazing and it makes me feel like this is where I'm supposed to be.

The lessons we learn from our daily activities such as tweeting or blogging or even from facebook are things that are most insightful, things that address some of the basic issues of our lives and though they are sometimes funny, they give us a good reason to laugh, and from experience, I can say that laughter is a wonderful thing, even on our worst days.

So, the next time you are reading something, don't just read it like it's a normal part of your day, read it like there's  something you will get from whatever that article is and even if it makes you laugh, please do, it's very refreshing.

Have a wonderful week and go out and make waves wherever you go!!!

Monday, May 16, 2011

The Art of Silence

This is probably the most profound thing I've said this year, so please read carefully.

Silence is an art that everyone should learn, but unfortunately, it seems to rate very high amongst thehardest lessons to learn in life.

Proverbs 17:28: "Even a fool, when he holds his peace, is counted wise: and he that shuts his lips is esteemed a man of understanding."

 That's very profound and thought-provoking too. Many people I have met  in my life are not people who are exceptionally smart or have a reservoir of wisdom or wise sayings, they are just people who over the years have learnt thhe art of silence and have put it in practical use. If you don't believe me, then put it to test. Look for someone you believe is wise and try to have a meaningful conversation with them for an hour; if they fall into the "Silent" category, you'll likely find out that they aren't all in all at the end of the day.
So the question might be "why do we have to keep up appearances?"

The answer simply is whatever you train yourself to do over a period of time will eventually become a part of you. Work on yourself while learning to be silent and you'll be amazed how what you'll say one day will come across to someone like the best thing ever heard.
Word of caution: Don't be a snob while trying to be quiet, you'll just repel people.

In case you're wondering how to learn this art, try to ask yourself the following:

Why do I talk?
Where do I talk?
When do I talk?
How do I talk?
To whom do I talk?
Finally, before you say anything, ask yourself the following: "Is it necessary, Is it harmful and will it benefit someone?"
Tell me after this if you don't see the best coming out of you!!!