The Art of Silence

This is probably the most profound thing I've said this year, so please read carefully.

Silence is an art that everyone should learn, but unfortunately, it seems to rate very high amongst thehardest lessons to learn in life.

Proverbs 17:28: "Even a fool, when he holds his peace, is counted wise: and he that shuts his lips is esteemed a man of understanding."

 That's very profound and thought-provoking too. Many people I have met  in my life are not people who are exceptionally smart or have a reservoir of wisdom or wise sayings, they are just people who over the years have learnt thhe art of silence and have put it in practical use. If you don't believe me, then put it to test. Look for someone you believe is wise and try to have a meaningful conversation with them for an hour; if they fall into the "Silent" category, you'll likely find out that they aren't all in all at the end of the day.
So the question might be "why do we have to keep up appearances?"

The answer simply is whatever you train yourself to do over a period of time will eventually become a part of you. Work on yourself while learning to be silent and you'll be amazed how what you'll say one day will come across to someone like the best thing ever heard.
Word of caution: Don't be a snob while trying to be quiet, you'll just repel people.

In case you're wondering how to learn this art, try to ask yourself the following:

Why do I talk?
Where do I talk?
When do I talk?
How do I talk?
To whom do I talk?
Finally, before you say anything, ask yourself the following: "Is it necessary, Is it harmful and will it benefit someone?"
Tell me after this if you don't see the best coming out of you!!!

What have you given for Me?

There's this very crucial discussion that is usually left out during Easter celebrations and today, I couldn't miss it even if I wanted to.
There's this hymn that is titled "I gave my Life for Thee" and the whole point of the hymn is after all the sacrifice Jesus made on the cross, what sacrifice are we making for Him or what are we giving for Him and to Him?

It goes thus:

I gave my life for thee
My precious blood I shed
That thou might ransomed be
And quickened from the dead
I gave my lifer for thee;
What hast thou given for Me?

My Father's house of light
My glory-circled throne
I left for earthly night
For waanderings and lone
I left it all for thee;
What hast thou left for Me?

I suffered much for thee
More than thy tongue can tell
Of bitterest agony
To rescue thee from hell
I've borne it all for thee;
What hast thou borne for Me?

And I have brought to thee
Down from My home above
Salvation full and free
My pardon and my love
I bring rich gifts to thee;
What hast thou brought to Me?






I guess it's just simple. The sacrifice Jesus made for us was wort it. What are we doing to appreciate that sacrifice?

Where's the "Like" Button?

Hey people. Hope the weekend has been great for you as it has for me.

Thank God they didn't cancel the parliamentary elections again today, it would have been such a disgrace. Unfortunately, that's not my area of specialization or interest, so I won't say anything more about it.

I saw my brother yesterday and today. It's been such a long time, maybe two months or thereabout I saw him last and I was really glad to see him.

Sometimes, I wish there was the "Like" button on blogger. I was reading  HoneyDame's blog today on honeydame1.blogspot.com and I came across this post about Nigerian's donating blood and HIV Type O. Now, it wasn't actually the post that made me look for the like button, but the comments that followed the post. I couldn't stop smiling and thinking wow, Nigerians will never change.

God has been really faithful to me over the past few weeks. I have a lot going on for me; many of them good and some, not so good. The beautiful part is even in all of these things, I've learnt that God is too faithful to fail. His promises may seem delayed, but in the end, He always delivers and the more you believe, the faster He delivers(at least that's what I think)

So, I have this 'friend' I'm trying to let go of.  I don't want to be rude or anything, but I just need to know how to tell someone that you can't just be friends with the person. I mean, it won't be nice to tell someone "I can't just be friends with you" but at the same time, it won't do me any good to keep talking to you and I'm really angry for every moment I spend with you. So, ideas on how to be polite and still keep my distance is needed. Thanks in advance :)

I have tests next week, and my courses are boring. That's just the plain truth. Sometimes, I wonder who came up with the idea of education. It's a concept that has never been quite right with me. Anyway, whether I like it or not, I have to read, so I have to go.

Here's wishing you a week filled with God's blessings and favor.

"A future you don't actually build up will leave you behind or meet you by surprise. Change is happening so fast that it looks like a constant"

Peace xxx

Random Thoughts

I really do not want to sound completely random, yet I can't figure out the directions of my thoughts.
Random thought #1:So my brother started blogging today. He's a very deep thinker and I'm sure you'll see the originality and depth of his thoughts in the first blog post he got the courage to upload, so you can check it out at fikayofk.blogspot.com.


Random thought #2: It amazes me how the strange things going on in this world. I saw a movie that starred a 26 year old lady that had Parkinson's disease. It was a disturbing sight. Anyways, point is I need to know if there's anything in this world that is more painful than seeing that you have your hands and can't make use of them just because they are shaking. Wouldn't it be easier to accept that the hands are not even there at all. #justsaying

I think I'll just stop rambling at this point and try to gather my thoughts.

TGIF in advance people. Looking forward seriously to the upcoming elections this weekend. Hope it will end up being as peaceful as we hope.

Is it me or something is not right?

First, TGIF!!! I had an awesome week, though my lectures were definitely over killing, but no pain, no gain, right?

Something bothers me though and I don't think it's normal. Over the past weeks, say 2 or 3 weeks, it's like more people have died than the whole of the 21st century and no, I'm not trying to crack or anything.

First, my Head of Department; then a couple of 'celebrities',I think about three of them, then this man from church and then the little baby that was swallowed by a python(really, is that scary or what?) and just today, some girl in a reality show that I didn't watch(Koko Mansion) died.

I'm sure there are even some others I don't know about, but this is some really petrifying stuff. I guess it might all be coincidental, but even if it is, the incidents are happening at a really alarming rate and I hope it stops soon because I'm not sure I will be able to stand this any longer.

At times like this, all  we need to do is look up to God and mend our ways. If there's anybody you have issues with, sort it out because tomorrow is unknown and though I don't pray for any other person to die, we need to plan ahead always.


On a lighter note, I'm hopeful for a beautiful weekend, not because I don't have things to do; as a matter of fact, I have three assignments due next week, but because I have people I love around me and we have loads of girly stuffs to do.

On that note, Happy weekend everyone.

Sometimes God doesn't give what you think you want. Not because you don't deserve it, but because you deserve more.

HOT OR NOT?

Now, usually, I don't write like this, but I have so much time on my hands right now and recently, I came across this blog and the writer (obviously a female) mentioned Michael Ealy and Keziah Jones(never heard about him and he is a Nigerian) as her ideals for male hotness. I got curious and "googled" these guys and seriously, I wasn't impressed. Not like they are bad looking guys or anything, it's just that they didn't strike me as hot. This then led to the question "How do you describe the hotness of a person?"

Against my usual self, I tried to ask google.com the question and I came about some obvious answers. Most girls talked about height(about 6 ft), green or blue eyes, not long, but dark hair(not necessarily black), biceps of course, most definetely not fat and a gentleman.

Many of the girls said something about Taylor Lautner's hair and of course, I "googled" that too and I must say I'm very impressed. His hair is beautiful(you can google that yourself. Unfortunately, you hardly find Africans with blue or green eyes and Taylor Lautner's hair, so bringing it to the home front, the girls love the guys on skin cut(I think that's what it's called) like Victor Valdes.

On the other hand, the guys seem to think that being hot is way different from being pretty. In the words of a guy, "Pretty and hot are different. Being hot is more about the body and being pretty is more about the face". So, maybe we can say nice hair, nice legs(without strands of hair sticking out of them), great body and skin and a little of the face will do hot.

What  then is the conclusion of the matter? I guess I want to say that "hotness or not" is subjective. What's hot to me might be "blah" to another person. As the saying goes, one man's meat is another man's poison, but someone can dispute the statement by saying "One man's meat can be another man's fish and another man's tofu and yet another man's eggs, it only depends on how you see it"

Since I can't seem to come to a conclusion, I will like to ask the question all over again, How would you descibe "Hotness or Not"

Highlights

Even though Friday is already over, I still want to say  TGIF. Not because I had anything in particular that I did this week, but because this week was full of ups downs and maybe even centres.

Sunday: After I had to travel on our very painful roads for about three hours, I had this very bad fall that made me wonder for a split second if I was paralysed (you do not want to know the details), but thank God, I was able to still use my legs.

Monday to Thursday: Very simple summary; a combination of frustration, constant exposure to the sun and of course, wasted efforts at different endeavors, lack of communication(I still can't believe I didn't have access to a phone for four whole days), hunger-not because there was no food, bit there were far more important things at stake that made food look like nursery rhymes, bad movies and lots more.

Well, just in case you are wondering about Friday, the week ended first with a bad novel (I mean it should probably have never been published at all), and no, I won't mention the book and finally, a bad movie. I don't even know which one ticks me off the most. I was trying to end the week on a good note, but these two things just killed it.

I miss my family. I know it's just been a week since I left home, but I miss them already and oh, my brother's birthday is on Monday. Yay!!! Party all the way (hmmm, you wish!!!)

Just so you know, for every five thoughts that run through my head, three out of it has to do with a particular character in the book I read. At the end of the day, I think I might need exorcism. Seriously.

Okay, enough whining. Even in all of these, I'm grateful to God. I couldn't have gone through this week without the assurance that He was there and even though I was frustrated, I still had enough strength to keep going. Big ups to God.

So much has happened in these last few days and as much as I want to have eventful weeks like this ahead, I definitely want "good eventful".

Happy weekend everyone. Give a helping hand to someone this weekend, it won't hurt.